Getting Married While in College: Bad or Good Idea?

Marriage is a common phenomenon which is important thing for human society which man and woman can live together after they got marriage licenses. The main purposes of getting married are having children and create a happy family.Every people want to get married, not only for normal people but also the abnormal one like gay. People have their own preferred time for getting married; appropriate age for marriage usually is 25 for women and 28 for men, but now is different. Most of the people prefer get married while they are still in college, rather than wait until they have graduated and completed their education. They think that getting married at young age can give them more freedom and better life than before. They can live together with their couple without feeling afraid and free doing what they want. However, it will interfere with their concentration in study if they have children. People who get married when in college can plan future together. Thus, in this essay I will discuss why some students decided to get married when they are in college and why some of them prefer to finish their study first.

University is a place for students to pursuit knowledge. The main purpose is to get knowledge and bright future. Moreover, most of the students also think that college is place where students not only get knowledge but also get experience and mate for future life, so there are some of them seeking a mate during the course. There are several benefits of getting married while in college, the first one is getting married when in college is helpful for financial problem, can ease the burden of woman or man or both of them when they were in college. In other word after married, the tuition of woman can be covered by man or jointly, it will very helpful for each other. The second benefit is the student who married when lectures will be protected from gossip and slander. As we know most of the students have their partners called boyfriend or girlfriend. They often spend time on campus and out campus together and this will cause a scandal and gossip about what they are doing out there, but if they have officially became a married couple, they would be able to avoid the rumors. In addition getting married while in college has an awareness of family life for married and responsible form of rights and obligations of both wife and husband. For example, the young couple will be responsible for duties, not only the campus but also the obligation of duty as a wife or husband.

The fourth benefit is the student who getting married in college can get a head start from all of the others; it means if the student decide to have children, then they are going to be older when their friends start having children. This is can be as a good thing. They are younger and can take all of that energy they have. The last is when getting married at a young age; student will be able to plan future together. They can together make a plan what they will be in future, how many children that will they have. The couple can helped each other to guide them in make decision if they have a lot of planning. They have o think about what will they do and how they were do to reach their goals.

 On the other hand, getting married when going to college can break the concentration of duties and responsibilities increase, if the student is not too smart and not too focus then maybe learning is impaired, or could be problematic for their studies, their family or both. Next, when the student has children it is also can be a difficult challenge. They will be parents who have duties and should have more responsibilities, not only for themselves but also for their children. Studying and working can be stressful on them. In fact, students in college should active in studies, because basically adults learn best when doing it self.  If they are married while in college they will be not active anymore because students who are married can not divide the time the family will beat the liveliness in the lecture.  As in the case of faces changes him physically, emotionally, and socially. For those young men who married young, because the state of the condition, there are teenagers who have not independently. Moreover, divorce also being a problem in marriage. According to Eshleman (1994) “ basically, though, the responsibilities of marriage are just too much for a 19-25 year old to handle.

In conclusion, many couples who decide to get married while in college deliberately choose to delay having children until they are finished with their education and established in their career. Having children is the main purpose of a marriage, having children will not disturb their education; even a child would be a motivation for the students to learn more and graduating soon. By getting married, they think, they will solve their personality conflicts with one another, or they will get away from home, or they will fulfill their physical and emotional needs. Getting married when college also can release the couple from the loneliness and they can plan their future together soon compared to others. However, there are many factors that should be considered by couple who want to get married during college.

sources:

http://www.askstudent.com/general/getting-married-before-graduation/

                  

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http://clubs.calvin.edu/chimes/991112/opinions_01.html

                

http://www.uwsp.edu/pointeronline/Pages/articles/I%E2%80%99m-Married-and-Go-to-College.aspx